Letting Go.

Letting Go.

It is easy to let something go.

Sometimes we feel it is very difficult to let things go. We hold on to it (whatever "it" is) because of some emotional attachment we have to it. 

I would like you to think of the things that you have let go of already in your life, even things that you didn’t necessarily want to let go of. I know we have all let go of many things, things such as - anxiety, fear, past relationships, resentment, negative thought patterns, jobs we disliked, bad habits, depression, stress, emotional connections, friendships and businesses – even old ways of thinking. 

You did it - many of, if not all of those types of things you let go in the past, and you know what? 

You can do it again.

The choice to stay attached to something that is unhealthy for our Spirit, body or emotions is just that – an attachment. 

At any point in time, you can say to yourself – I let *this* go. 

And that is it!

Now this doesn’t mean that you are going to love the choice of letting go of a bad habit or an unhealthy relationship. Remember when we live our lives in an intellectual manor – rather than attached to unhealthy emotions about something not good for us – then we are living in a truthful and loving manor to ourselves. 

Know that it is a choice. We can choose to let go of something - in the most loving and kind way that we can sort out, or we can create a lot of other negative emotions such as worry or stress or anger when letting go – that too is a choice.

It is also true that when we let go of things that are not of our highest good – then we really are opening a space up in our lives for something that is. Funnily enough that new thing could even be that the very thing you are letting go of. 

Sometimes what you release turns out to be what you need, in which case it will come back to you. 

For instance owning your own business and feeling you are charging too much for your service - then you let go of that idea and realize you are really not charging enough. So you raise your prices and wind up selling more things than before - why you ask? Because people feel that energy and respect you have for yourself to ask for what you are worth! Holding on to limiting ideas, is a perfect example of that. 

So is holding on to an unhealthy relationship. If you let go of an unhealthy relationship/friendship then the friend understands - wow I really shouldn't have been uncaring, insensitive, mean, or unloving to this person. Then before you know it your friend or loved one changes their attitude towards you and apologizes. Now I am not saying this always happens, but if it is meant to be - it will.

You really never know what the Universe has in store for you once you let go of something unhealthy for you!

If our time is filled working a job that we really dislike, being in a relationship that is unhealthy or having a friend that is draining – we are allowing our valuable time and valuable energy to be spent on these things, when we could choose to just – let go –. 

So what - if you have to spend some time with yourself, I know being alone is a fear that many people have. Use that time to figure out what really would make you feel happy, fulfilled or loved. In fact I would suggest that we do that anyhow from time to time. 

Spend the day just with you, pampering you, allowing you to feel good, happy, healthy and loved by YOU. 

When you exhibit love for yourself, you are creating the energy of being in love with yourself. I don't mean this in a narcissistic manor, but a healthy manor and you therefore are attracting other things, people, jobs, situations - etc that are also on the same energy pattern as you.

So today -- I am choosing -- and I am letting go of all things that are not healthy for my Spirit.

How about you?

Namaste, 

Starlene

http://www.StarleneBreiter.com

Be Yourself!

Here is to being the only person you are really able to be - YOURSELF. 

When you get clear on who you are, and you know that is your truth - then you are able to finally allow your inner self to radiate outward in your outer world. If you do not yet know who YOU are, then why not do some digging and try to figure that out?

I can hear some people thinking - how do I sort out who I am? Well first you have to be really honest with yourself. You can do that by truly asking your self - does this that I am doing, working with, connecting with or otherwise, resonate with who I am? For instance you might have an addiction to say coffee or sugar - and everytime you eat it, you feel icky for doing so. If that is the case, then coffee or sugar is probably not who you truly are. I know we all get addicted to things, it is the nature of being human but we really do not need to be. We can ask ourselves, and not our minds, but our hearts and higher self - does this (insert thing, addiction, person etc.) really make me feel good? Is is helping me in some way? Is it hindering me some way?

Self examination is a difficult thing for most people, I understand that. It is not always easy to look at my own self, but I can tell you through experience when taking an unemotional, no-mind, heartfelt approach to my life - I have come to great conclusions about myself and how I can better myself by letting go of something that does not serve my highest spirit and that in itself is pretty powerful. Stepping into the space that you do not need to be anything someone else wants you to be - but who YOU want you to be, releasing the things we are addicted to - allows you to be the real you.

Don't be afraid to set boundaries and tell people no, if something doesn't resonate with you - it is that simple - no. If you feel pressured to do something you do not want to, saying no is the healthiest thing for everyone involved and it helps you to feel empowered. You do not have to say no in an angry or negative way, being loving and kind (if that is who you are) is perfectly acceptable in saying no to someone.

Also do not be afraid to march to the beat of your own drum or blaze your own path ~ there is a lot to be said for the person that does that and truly knows who they are on the inside!

I am me, honest, loving and happy - who are you?!

Something to ponder over. :)

Love & Blessings, Starlene Breiter
http://www.RocksAndReiki.com 

Expect Nothing, Appreciate Everything.

Expect Nothing, Appreciate Everything.

I wanted to share this thought with all of you today. It is something I have kept in my own heart and gently reminded myself of throughout my life.

When we have a simple appreciation for everything in life, from the most major of things to the silliest of things - then we are in a state of bliss.

Even when we are going through the "crap" that life always seems to throw at us... - By learning to find the appreciation for it while you are going through it. That is how we keep feeling that bliss, no matter what stuff is going on around us.

By finding that still quiet side of ourselves (that may be a small part right now) but is in everyone one of our hearts - knowing that nothing. Yes - nothing - can truly allow you to move into a space that is not of love --- UNLESS --- you allow it to - that is when we feel the bliss.

For an example, and I am sure many of you reading this have experienced something similar in your own lives... 

How many times in life have you had an experience that just seemed awful to go through? Then when you reflected on it in the future, you found hidden blessings that came from that experience? I know for me - I can tell you many stories of things happening in my own life that when I finished going through all of it - I reflected and was actually grateful for the experience. Typically when I reflect on a "bad experience", I find some new appreciation or really just feel like, wow, that whole experience is such a blessings because out of it came something wonderful.

I think the trick to this is to be in that state of appreciation and not feel upset or angry or annoyed or any of the other myriad of emotions that come from the ego while going through the negative experience. Just accept all of the stuff that we have to go through, finding that still quiet place and being anchored in that, in your heart - that is the trick to really feeling blissful in your life!

I know this doesn't usually happen for people - in an instant - but why can't it? 

Why can't you just say to yourself - I am done with the drama, anger, judgement, frustration etc etc, and I am flipping the page and starting a new chapter. It really is that simple. When you slice and dice it all up, if you decide to let go of those fearful feelings, those judgements, those things weighing you down  - there really is a moment in time that you simply have to let it go.

Why not let that moment in time be right now?

So why not set a conscious decision for yourself - RIGHT NOW - and get centered in your heart and not let all the perceived problems of the world bog YOU down. That is what really happens when we let the lower side of us take over, we get bogged down and feel bad, or get sick, or whatever negative stuff that happens around us. If you just allow all that stuff to happen, kind of like a movie, and do not engage in the drama of it all, then you start to awaken into this feeling of bliss, this feeling of non-attachment and letting go - it is quite a peaceful place!

When we are in this space of love and appreciation for everything around us, even the crap - our attitudes change, a softening occurs and our hearts open wider allowing the love to flow in and radiates outward.

Many people are searching for that *true love* but have neglected to find that true love for themselves and their surroundings. Therefor they are unable to simply radiate love to find love, or get hooked up in relationships that are destructive because essentially when we let the lower side of ourselves be in control - that is what happens.

Appreciating the love and the negativity - all of it - and not expecting anything other then appreciation and love to flow into your heart - allows us to feel the bliss that comes from being in this state of appreciation.

I know, it seems hard, but it really isn't - it is a choice, we can choose to be blissful through the crap, or we can hold on to that which is all unreal anyway, the lower - ego side of ourselves.

Now, let me be the first to tell you, all this I am speaking is straight from my own experiences and understanding of life in general. I am no saint when it comes to this, but I work on myself continually. I get that we are human beings, we have egos - we will until we die, but we can choose to let the ego side of ourselves be in control - or we can choose to allow ourselves to be happy, blissful and peaceful at any given time. The more that you practice this sort of behavior, the easier it becomes!

Just some pondering's for your morning, afternoon, day or night!

Namaste ~Starlene Breiter

http://www.StarleneBreiter.com 

Spider Webs

Have you ever watched a spider spin its web?

I have.

It is an extraordinary thing to stand somewhere and just watch as the little guy (or girl) spins its web and creates such an intricate piece of art that it uses to live on and feed from.

To the spider, this web is utilitarian ~ and necessary to be able to sustain itself by catching other insects in it and laying its eggs and spawning other spiders. To some humans, spiders are a nuisance and we tare down their homes and make our surroundings more "beautiful".

To me, I think spiders can teach us a thing or two about allowing our creative spirit to just flow and sustain us because unless we are living our passion, then our work isn't usually our passion. Sometimes the passion that comes out isn't work for us even, rather just passion, in some creative way.

Much like the spider probably does not realize that it is creating art to sustain itself - we as the creative spirits that we are, do that through our own inspiration, play and work. Now you might be thinking, well what is so artistic about an accountant - ask someone that doesn't know the magic of numbers and you will find out.

We all have our niche, our web, our own unique and beautiful way of expressing ourselves and I believe it is up to us to find out what that is and get creating our own web!

Namaste ~Starlene Breiter RMT
http://www.RockStarAstrologer.com

Notes from the Universe

One of my favorite things about time and space, Starlene, is that absolutely NOTHING can ever happen there that can't be seen as a blessing in some wonderful way.

Perspective rules,
The Universe

I find these little jewels from this website...
www.tut.com

I just love how the Universe thinks!
;)
Star

60 ailments and their crystal cures!

Are you ever stumped on which crystal to use for a certain ailment?

Well here is a wonderful list of 60 common ailments that we can encounter at any time and their crystal cures...

I personally love my crystal energy work and use them in my daily life. So have a look see and if you are interested in finding yourself a crystals, come check out my crystal store!

www.rocksandreiki.com

Namaste, Starlene

60 Ailments and Their Crystal Cures

1. It's hard for me to concentrate.
Sodalite. It helps to clear up both mental and emotional confusion which can prevent concentration.

2. I have a hard time making decisions.
Carnelian: It helps us to focus on the present, and our current needs.

3. I'd like to be more in touch with angels.
Angelite: This crystal helps us to be in touch with angels and animal guides, as well as assisting in distant communication with other humans.

4. I have lots of ideas, but I can't seem to materialize them.
Citrine. It helps you to manifest your ideas so that you can act on them.
Clear Calcite: Sometimes we can't find new answers because we're operating in a framework of old beliefs. Clear calcite helps us to change our perspective.

5. I have lots of ideas, but it's difficult for me to express them.
Turquoise: It helps you to clarify ideas and to express them creatively -- and to enroll others in helping to make them come true.

6. I have difficulty letting go of old ideas.
Clear quartz: Called the mirror of the soul, it helps us to see who we truly are, free of limiting ideas and beliefs.

7. I wish I liked myself more.
Rose Quartz: This is the stone for self-love, meaning appreciation of yourself, regardless of what you consider to be your shortcomings.

8. It's hard for me to be honest with other people.
Amazonite: For courage of personal expression.

9. Sometimes I wish I were in a different dimension of reality.
All grounding (black/red) stones help to reestablish a loving connection with the earth dimension. These include smoky quartz, hematite, tiger's eye, obsidian, black tourmaline, onyx, and red jasper.

10. I hate my body. I'm too (fat, skinny, short, tall, etc.).
Smoky quartz: Of all the grounding stones, it establishes the most gentle and loving connection with the body.

11. I never have enough money to satisfy my needs.
Citrine: for using one's individual and unique talents to create abundance.
Chrysoprase: Attracts abundance and helps in success with new ventures

12. I resent what some people have done to me, and find it difficult to forgive them.
Sugilite: This stone is especially effective in working on resentment and anger.

13. I know that I have a limited view of some areas of my life, but I don't know how to gain a broader perspective.
Hawk's Eye: This stone helps to provide an "aerial" and more objective viewpoint of one's situation.

14. I often find that other people's moods are contagious, i.e., if someone is sad I find myself feeling sad, too.
Hematite: In ancient times this stone was used as a mirror because of its reflective qualities. It can help you to deflect, rather than absorb, the moods of others.

15. I want to feel more at peace with myself.
Chrysocolla: Its deep blue-green hue soothes and calms the heart. It is also considered to be a stone to program for world peace.

16. I feel that I lack imagination.
Aquamarine, a stone which has been related to the sea, helps us to brave the unknown and experience the flow of creativity.
Clear Calcite: Lacking imagination is often the inability to see beyond the (invisible) mental boundaries we've set for ourselves. Clear calcite helps us to expand our vision.

17. I'm not in touch with my intuition.
Blue Agate and Malachite: Both of these stones assist in left/right-brain balance. Thus, those who feel stuck in their logical, rational selves can rebalance so that they may hear their intuitive voices.

18. It's hard for me to think logically.
As Blue Agate and Malachite help those who are mostly logical to get in touch with intuition, so mostly intuitive people can use these stones to experience their rational sides. Both stones relate to left/right-brain balance.

19. I find myself getting angry when I have to deal with incompetent people.
Rhodonite: Combining pink, the color for love, with black, for grounding, this stone promotes tolerance.

20. I feel stressed out a great deal of the time.
Amethyst: This stone is commonly referred to as nature's tranquilizer. It's also beneficial for those who suffer from insomnia or nightmares.
Amber: This stone helps with any kind of emotional turmoil.
Chrysoprase: Helps to release emotional tension and stress which has lodged in the physical being.
Green Tourmaline: All tourmalines help to balance energy, and green is one of the most soothing.

21. I have a low opinion of myself.
Smoky Quartz is the most widely-used stone for self-esteem.
Citrine is another good choice, as it balances both any tendency to have an inflated opinion of self as well as an inadequate sense of self.

22. I'm intolerant of others.
Rhodonite and Rose Quartz: Rhodonite is effective in dealing with intolerance of acquaintances and strangers; while Rose Quartz addresses the intolerance we feel towards those people who mirror what we view as our own faults.

23. It's hard for me to let go of anger.
Rhodonite: This stone helps us to be patient and to forgive.

24. I have goals, but I find it difficult to get from where I am to where I want to be.
Clear Quartz: A pointed crystal has the most focused energy, and clear quartz is the most powerful crystal to program for goals.

25. There seems to be a lot of negativity in my life.
Hematite and Black Tourmaline both help to deflect negativity.

26. I'd like to be more prosperous.
Green tourmaline for awakening one's creativity for the purpose of creating more abundance.
Citrine: for feeling confident about using those abilities.
Honey Calcite: for manifesting abundance in work-related areas.
Pyrite: For awakening the creativity and discovering new ways of creating abundance.

27. I want to understand myself better.
Moss Agate helps one to understand the self improves ego and self esteem.

28. I wish I had more creative abilities.
Malachite: for its ability to help balance the logical, practical and intuitive, visionary sides of the brain.
Carnelian: For helping creativity to flow.
Aqua Aura: Encourages self-expression in service to others.

29. I want to trust my psychic abilities more.
Labradorite/spectrolite: This stone assists us in the wise use of psychic powers; thus we need not fear using them for the wrong purposes.

30. I wish I were more in touch with nature.
Agate: This stone helps us to connect to nature and nature spirits.

31. I want to be free of past sorrows.
Aventurine: Sorrow is stored in the heart, and aventurine is an ideal stone for soothing heartache.

32. I have a lot of anxiety attacks.
Rhodochrosite: This stone assists in slow, deep breathing, which relaxes the solar plexus and sends needed oxygen to the brain.

33. I often feel emotionally unbalanced.
Moonstone: This stone assists you both when you're feeling over-emotional or out of touch with your feelings.

34. I would like more serenity in my life.
Amethyst: The most recommended stone for stress relief.
Aquamarine: This stone has the calming, soothing energy of the sea.

35. I wish good things happened more quickly to me.
Rutilated Quartz: Its high vibrations speed in manifesting what you want.

36. I wish I knew what's stopping me from having what I want.
Black Obsidian: This stone helps to bring to the surface the hidden and limiting beliefs which may blocking you.
Clear Calcite has the same effect in a more gentle way.

37. I'd like to be more patient with myself and others.
Rose Quartz: This stone teaches self-love and acceptance; when we feel this way about ourselves it's easier to have patience with others.
Rhodonite: This stone helps with patience.

38. I wish I could look at my problems more rationally.
Sodalite: When you feel completely confused this stone can help with mental calmness.

39. I'd like to know what's going on inside me.
Obsidian: This stone will tell you' be sure you want to know.

40. When I'm sick I get so nervous about it that it's hard for me to get well.
Amethyst: The stone for over stressed nerves.
Rhodochrosite: for relieving anxiety.

41. Sometimes I'm not sure what I feel.
Moonstone: This stone helps us to get in touch with our feelings.

42. I'm over-sensitive.
Hematite: Being over-sensitive usually means being over-affected by the opinions and/or feelings of others. Hematite helps to shield us from this.

43. Sometimes I don't trust myself.
Rose Quartz: This is the stone for loving ourselves, and trust naturally follows love.

44. I feel as if I'm on an emotional roller-coaster.
Moonstone: This stone helps to bring balance to the emotions.

45. I need to uncover my deepest fears.
Obsidian: This stone will bring up anything which is hidden, and is best used with any of the quartzes (especially rose quartz and aventurine) to soften its effect.
Charoite: Helps one to deal with both known and unknown fears.

46. I'm depressed a lot of the time.
Smoky Quartz: When we're depressed we feel both that we have no solid ground to stand on and that light is absent from our lives. This stone, which is dark and light-filled, can help.
Amber: This helps to draw out depression.

47. I need more passion in my life.
Ruby: This is the traditional stone for sexual and emotional passion.

48. I find it hard to ask others for help.
Amazonite and Turquoise: The first stone gives courage of self-expression; the second gives the ability to ask for help.

49. I have difficulty in asserting myself.
Amazonite: This stone helps us to say what we need to say.

50. I have frequent nightmares.
Amethyst: This is the traditional stone for peaceful sleep.

51. I feel that I'm too inflexible.
Green Calcite: This stone, formed in water, helps to bring flexibility to our perceptions of ourselves and others.

52. No matter how hard I try I can't seem to be objective about my problems.
Clear Calcite: This stone helps us to to draw on our higher or spiritual selves for creative solutions.

53. I feel as if I come from another planet.
Moldavite: Some of us may; moldavite can helps us all to feel more comfortable on the earth plane.
Ametrine: Helps us to balance the spiritual and physical words.

54. I have trouble meditating.
Kyanite: I have found that this stone helps me to be grounded and calm so that I can meditate.
Hematite: This stone helps to calm and stabilize our energy.

55. I would like to develop my intellect.
Fluorite: Known as the genius stone, it can help stimulate intellectual powers.

56. I worry too much about other people's opinions of me.
Rose Quartz: When we nurture ourselves with self-love other people's opinions of us will usually mirror our own.

57. I feel that I present to the world an image of myself which isn't really me.
Charoite: We often present false images because we're afraid that we won't be accepted for who we are. Charoite helps to dissolve fear.

58. I feel disconnected from other people.
Quartz Cluster: Helps us to see the beauty of community and helps with group meditations.

59. No matter how hard I try, I can't stick to my diet (or break another addiction).
Amethyst: Many people have successfully used this stone to help in releasing addictions.

60. I find it impossible to let go of old relationships:
Onyx: This is the stone for breaking unwanted ties to the past.

10 Questions to Ask Yourself Regularly

Questions to Ask Yourself, Regularly

Someone once observed that you learn more by the questions you ask than by the answers you give. Call it Socratic learning, if you will, but I find that asking questions of myself helps keep me on track. Here are ten I ask regularly.

What am I resisting?
The seeds of growth lie in your resistance to what is new, unfamiliar, or unpleasant. All too often, the very things we resist most are the things that force us to grow the most. So, be attentive to those subtle gut-tightening signals that hint of an opportunity for learning

What is the lesson here?
There's a second step that is needed to reinforce the insight gained by asking the first question. In order to really benefit, we have to actually seek out the lesson, demonstrate that we really want to hear, and be willing to follow the often-subtle guidance that comes.

Have I been here before?
Often our most pressing issues are thinly disguised versions of problems we've failed to solve in the past. Different names and faces maybe, but the same underneath, destined not to go away until we meet and resolve them once and for all. If your answer to this question is, yes, then maybe it's time to get to the bottom of the issue and solve it!

Am I losing energy to this?
We pay a price for every negative thought we entertain, and it's measured in decreased energy, heightened depression, reduced immune function, and sometimes serious illness. Although you may believe otherwise, we have to reach the place where anger, frustration, worry, and criticism have no place in our experience. Until we do, we are losing energy, diluting our focus, and rendering ourselves vulnerable.

Am I holding on to something I need to let go of?
One of the most difficult tasks of this life consists in letting go-of our attachments, of ego, of our need to be right, and ultimately, of this life. You cannot fly unless you are willing to relinquish your firm footing on earth; flying requires that sort of faith, and commitment. The surprising thing is that, when we really let go, we begin to grow.

Am I in the present?
Every moment you spend regretting the past or worrying about the future is a moment of the present, lost. Yes, we need to complete the past, wind up our unfinished business, and be attentive to trends that portend of future events, but we can take action only in the present. So, that's where your full attention needs to be, and staying in the present is a full time job.

What do I need to do now?
To act or not to act, that is the question. Whether tis nobler in the mind to take action against a sea of troubles and so by doing, prolong them, or to suffer the slings and arrows of outrageous inaction and so gain clarity. (Shakespeare would sue for what I've done to Hamlet's timeless prose) Put the question differently: is there a NEED for action now? Often, we act because we're afraid that, if we don't, things will get worse. The truth is that deliberate inaction is action, and it is often a way to allow a cloudy situation to become clear.

Who's in control here?
True or false?: It's important to be in control of your life. Control can be a big issue for some people, especially if they feel they don't have it. So, granted, it's perfectly reasonable to want to feel in control. Letting go of the past, staying in the present, and taking action (including no action) are all ways to develop a sense that you are in control. But, let me suggest that there is a step beyond control. It is to recognize that, ultimately, you are NOT in control-that you are always subject to a higher authority. Paradoxically, this recognition and your acknowledgement of it can free you from the need to always be IN control.

What is my responsibility here?
Have you noticed how some people have a need to involve others in their problems? If it's your boss, your significant other, or your child, it's normal to conclude that your have to do something. But, that something doesn't mean becoming part of the problem! Your responsibility, in this case, is to maintain a level of detachment that will enable you to see the situation clearly, and this clarity pertains not only to the solution, but to the extent that you should be involved in the problem in the first place.

Am I at peace with this?
Do you know when you're at peace with something? Chances are, it's when you can look at an issue, person, or problem and feel no charge, no subtle or sudden surge of emotion. But peace is something more. It's about balance, an inner certainty that you are untouched by it, him, or her. The peace-check is a key element in gaining closure, in ascertaining that the situation is complete.